APRIL 2018
APRIL 1
We have a blast on Easter!
My kids' mother sends this email. She claims I never allow her to speak to the kids. If and when she calls while they are with me, she calls from a blocked number. I don't constantly have my phone in my hand... I'm busy spending time with my kids. I can't return a call back to a blocked number. So she wants me to call her boyfriend's phone to let her talk to the kids. No thanks... especially when she stated in her 'request for restraining order' that I call, harass and threaten her boyfriend.
APRIL 2, 2018
The weekend fun is over. I have to take the kids back today. Normally after the weekend I would take Kiley to school and Mason to daycare. Kiley is out of school this week for spring break. I meet the mother at our usual spot and exchange the kids. Not long after leaving, I receive this email:
I file additional declarations to add to OSC- Contempt, DV R/O, Child Support Mod.
APRIL 3, 2018
Today I go to court. This is the hearing that was intended for the OSC-Contempt BUT since she requested a continuance at the last hearing, it's ALL being addressed today.
1. Child Support Modification (She lied about her income which made my child support way higher than it should be!)
2. Change/End the DV R/O (that she has on me)
3. Request to Set Aside Support Orders- Fraud/Perjury (She lied on income info!)
4. OSC-Contempt (for parental alienation and interfering with my visitation)
5. Request for DV R/O on her (She keeps on and on when I tell her to contact me only about the kids!)
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After waiting for everyone else in the courtroom to have their case heard, it was finally our turn. Every court hearing thus far, we have been the very last case that the judge hears. The judge calls out the reasons for the hearing.
He said, "First and foremost, in the matter of the contempt charges... I am hereby declaring them dismissed, without prejudice. It looks like I approved for filing and authorized 7 counts of contempt, but I don't know why I would do that and I don't know what I was thinking. There's just no evidence here." WHAT?!?! I have pictures with timestamps. Texts. Receipts. Phone call transcripts. Eyewitnesses. Emails. I have SEVERAL forms of evidence... so how the hell can the judge say 'there's no evidence"!? So, after all the times SHE maliciously kept my kids from me, she gets away scotch free. HE DISMISSES ALL COUNTS OF CONTEMPT.
So....pictures with timestamps, emails, texts and eyewitnesses aren't considered evidence? If someone commits a violent crime and the evidence against the suspect happens to be pictures, emails, texts or eyewitnesses, does that mean "there's just no evidence here" either?
And... violating a court order several times doesn't warrant a contempt charge...or at least a sanction?!
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Then SHE proceeds to tell the judge my girlfriend has been harassing and assaulting her, which we know is not true. My girlfriend goes with me during pick up/drop off. My car is not working at the moment, so my girlfriend is my only means of transportation for now AND I want an eyewitness with me when I meet up with the mother because of the crazy accusations she continues to make. My girlfriend stays in the vehicle while I load/unload the kids and then we leave. SIMPLE. I even told the judge that my girlfriend is my only means of transportation because I cannot afford repairs due to my high child support payments because the mother lied about her income... etc. He doesn't care. I told the judge I don't have another vehicle to use until I can get my car repaired.
Because the mother claimed my girlfriend harasses her, the judge said my girlfriend and the mother's boyfriend are not to show up at the meeting location.
SHE claims I made her lose her job... but provided NO evidence. She provided NO evidence of ANYTHING but yet this judge believed every word she said.
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The only thing that came of this hearing was MY CHILD SUPPORT WAS RAISED because the mother lied once again.
The judge also ordered to use TalkingParents only.
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APRIL 4, 2018
I am supposed to meet the mother at 7:45am to pick up my kids. My daughter is on spring break. I don't have access to a vehicle to go pick him up since the mother claimed my girlfriend harasses her and the judge ordered my girlfriend to not be present during drop off/pick up.
SO, FOR THE FIRST TIME... I AM NOT ABLE TO SHOW UP TO PICK UP MY KIDS.
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The timestamp is 2 hours ahead..ignore that!
The mother and/or her boyfriend post comments to me on a blog. I guess they didn't think I could trace the IP address....? Ignorance is bliss.
APRIL 11, 2018
I show up to the meeting location and wait for 44 minutes. The mother never shows. No calls. No texts. No emails. NOTHING.
I make a police report..maybe this will be enough evidence that she is withholding my kids from me. The police tell me that A, the mother's boyfriend, tried to reach out to me this morning regarding MY kids. I didn't have any missed calls. Anyways... why would her boyfriend be reaching out to me about MY kids? So, I was not able to pick up Mason this morning.
I show up to Kiley's school to pick her up. While there, her grandmother (the mother's mother) shows up to pick her up. Kiley is already with me in the vehicle, so we drive home. I still don't have Mason.
The police told me I should contact the mother's boyfriend about me kids. I am hesitant because of all the crazy accusations the mother has made about me harassing her boyfriend. I go ahead and contact him because I want to see my son. If anything were to come of this, I made a police report so surely that will protect me in the event the mother attempts to claim harassment again.
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While talking with the boyfriend, I learn that the mother is sick and in the hospital. THAT'S why she didn't show up to the location this morning...BUT... my kids stayed at their grandma's house the night before. If that's the case, why couldn't the mother of my kids email me or have someone else call me beforehand to let me know what's going on or why no one was there for me to pick up my son.
Regardless... I finally meet up with the grandma around 8:00pm to get Mason. FINALLY. I told the grandma that the mother needs to send me a message on TALKINGPARENTS to let me know details of the circumstance (for MY protection so she can't make any more crazy accusations).
APRIL 16, 2018
My weekend with my kids is over... time to take Kiley to school and Mason to daycare. (Like I have done every Monday morning following my weekend...) I don't ever meet the mother at the gas station on Monday mornings. I am following what the custody orders say and what I have always done.
We ARE on TalkingParents... she just refuses to communicate on it.
